“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.” ~ John Gray
Relationships can be confusing and down-right frustrating but it doesn’t have to be this way. Beginning a relationship can be the simplest part, but being able to sustain it is what will keep it healthy and long lasting. The key ingredient to sustaining that relationship is by holding the lines of communicating open.
Watch The Video Where Dr. John Gray Discusses How Men and Women Cope with Stress Differently..
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Here are some ways that you can keep on relating to your partner:
1. Share your opinions and feelings ~ Do this with one another without making the other individual feel foolish for what they are experiencing. You both need to be able to speak your mind without the other person rolling his or her eyes or mocking your remarks.
Support is required in order to keep sharing what’s going on with each other. When that support is broken, the lines of communication will close down immediately. Reaffirm what it is you heard them say and recognize that they have a right to their feelings.
2. Verbalize your differences ~ You and your partner will not always get along. There will be deviations because it is a natural happening for all couples. The key constitutes being able to talk out those differences and come up with some middle ground. Whenever one individual wants one thing and the other individual desires another, a compromise should be selected to meet each other midway.
3. Listen! ~ Being able to listen to your mate when they require it encourages them to talk when they need to. Do not interrupt them. Let them reveal what they need to and then take your turn. When a partner feels that the other person Is not attentive, their lines of communication shut down.
4. Build trust and honesty ~ Tell your partner the truth about your feelings and avoid lying. Lies build upon lies and will at long last kill trust in a partnership altogether. When there is no trust between two people, the relationship will suffer and will more than likely end.
5. Take matters seriously ~ If your partner brings up a concern he or she has, take it seriously. Do not brush it off as meaningless. If it is a concern for them, it needs to be worked out, so help support them in that matter. If you do not take it seriously, they will not take you seriously and communication will be at an end.
6. Stay positive ~ Maintain a positive attitude with your partner as much as possible. It is not always easy to accomplish, but it is crucial for communicating. Destructive attitudes lead to negative relationships, and there will be no communicating in the end. A positive attitude promotes more communication and allows a relationship to grow.
7. Let things out ~ Do not keep thoughts or feelings suppressed inside of you. If you do, your true feelings will come out in a deluge of anger, and the other person will be hurt.
Continue to work on these key points in your relationship and you can be sure that the lines of communication will remain open. You will be able to develop a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.
Building a strong relationship is never entirely easy, but the rewards will keep on coming if you just continue to work at it.
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Nice post Marc, you summarize it very well.
I agree that it’s not easy to build a strong relationship, but it’s definitely worth the effort. 🙂
Great advice! I think that is one thing I need to do with my wife. Verbalize my challenges. Thanks!
Love it Marc.
You truly bring some great bullets on to have a more successful relationship!
Thanks for sharing.
Hey Marc,
Good to be back… hehehe. Communication is so valid in the age we living in… INFORMATION Age. Without it we would have never developped where the world is today. Relating this knowledge to Relationships is a must as you just pointed out. Most people who experience failure in one way or the other have to consider to look what went wrong on the communication level… If there is a humble person to recognise this then he has discovered the first step to avoiding another failure or even repairing and transforming a failure into success…
Thx Marc for putting this on for us the contemplate on…
All the best,
Alex
Marc,
This is a great post with a lot of helpful tips. Listening in particular is one of the greatest tips. That and letting it out. My husband and I are guilty of hiding our emotions sometimes and it always serves to work against us in the long run. We are still newlyweds, married only 3 years now, but we have known each other for 10. He is not only my hubby but my best friend.
Hi Mark,
My Mum bought me men are from mars, women are from venus when I was a teenager and I have to say it totally changed the way I communicated with my partner – still together after 13 years and I believe that book has a lot to do with it so needless to say I’m a big fan of John Gray!
The 7 tips you share are right on! I used to repress my feelings and oh man did anger flood out when I couldn’t take it anymore!
All the best,
Emma 🙂
Love it Marc! I enjoyed the video! Thank you for sharing this with us! I especially need it today! Anyway I love this line “When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom. ~ John Gray”. So true! Respect and acceptance is really a vital to a lasting relationship! 🙂
Great tips on relationships Marc!
It all comes down to communication.
Peter
What an inspirational article and video – thanks Marc! Relationships truly are a mystery at times, but as you’ve pointed out with the steps you’ve outlined, to be successful it takes opening ourselves up to be truly aware of others feelings and concerns. Great way to start the week – thanks!
All of these are solid points. I would say keeping an open mind (probably the most tricky at times) is a real killer!
Hi Marc,
This is a great post!! It’s so true! Relationships require our constant attention, work,and appreciation of the other person. I love the video you chose with John Grey. That’s how husbands are, and I think if wives can simply relate to our men in this way (that you guys simply want to FIX IT!!) we will be more understanding. I have a sweet husband who is so sad if he can’t fix the situation..but some just can’t be, and that’s when some of the tools you mention come in. Sometimes we just need to talk it out, or just “let it out”like you say! which makes a world of difference. Listening is one of the biggest keys for me..and many women., and men! We have to feel heard!
Thanks Marc great one!
Laura Morris
hi Marc,
Relationships make or break us. When we die, what will people remember about us? not the number of tools that we mastered! No, they will remember how we contributed to other people’s lives, how we related to others, the quality of time we spent with others. As I move through my life journey, I have come to know this more and more.
moving countries has taught me that what I miss about places I have lived are the people I have left behind.
Be blessed,
Clare
Hi Marc,
I have a lot of respect for Dr. John Gray Discusses How Men and Women Cope with Stress Differently. He really knows his stuff. There is so much difference between men and women. Men are definitely the fixer uppers! Relationship are on the top of the list for woman. My understanding about me is that their most important thing in life is success. Sometimes it is difficult for the two to blend, but it is possible with a lot of hard work and developing communication skills together.
Dr. Gray is the expert in relationships and he is correct about not using these quotes! “Forget about it.” “Don’t worry about it.” “It’s not a big deal.” Those do not work when a man is expressing himself. He is just trying to solve the problem and she is seeking some stress relief from her relationship! Once both understand the differences, it is easier to nurture the relationship.
You shared the following list to help couples improve their relationships:
1. Share your opinions and feelings.
2. Verbalize your differences.
3. Listen!
4. Build trust and honesty.
5. Take matters seriously.
6. Stay positive.
7. Let things out
I would say this is a powerful set of 7 ways to help couples relate to each other. If a couple sat down together with this list and discussed each one, they would be well on their way to having an awesome, comforting, safe, loving relationship.
Thanks Marc. This is very practical and insightful information.
Raena Lynn
Hi Marc,
I feel relationships are the key factor in ever venue of one’s life. It can be a couple, your kids, your boss, etc. The part I like best is communication. I always say that communication is what binds a relationship.
You brought up another great point – listening. Some call it an art. One of my pet peeves is when I’m communicating with someone and I see them drift away. Then they ask me to repeat it. Grrrr But patience is a virtue ha ha.
I enjoyed this post and thank you for making it so easy for people to understand. We all need this reminder.
Thanks
Donna
Keep up the good work bro.Your article is really great and I truly enjoyed reading it.Waiting for some more great articles like this from you in the coming days
Love all your tips so much.Those are so useful
Hey Marc. Excellent post. It really does boil down to putting ourselves aside and focusing on the other person, doesn’t it? Male or female. Prospect, upline, downline, prospector, coach, etc. All areas of our lives we have to step beyond our own self centeredness (which is inherent in all of us) and give our complete attention to others. Constant struggle !!
“Do not keep thoughts or feelings suppressed inside of you. If you do, your true feelings will come out in a deluge of anger, and the other person will be hurt.”
Ouch, I’m guilty!
Good post and great advices Marc! I can totally relate with it. Thank you for posting and sharing it.
Hi Marc,
It is a very nice and informative post.You well explained the topic and I like the video you have shared here.Thanks for sharing 7 tips to build lasting, loving relationships and this post is helpful for many readers.
Great post, Marc! I know that I am guilty of trying to solve things. There aren’t too many gender stereotypes that my wife and I fit neatly (in many, we fit them in the opposite way for emotional issues), but I have heard this one more than once. It truly is amazing how we think the things that are helping in fact go the opposite way.
This is sound practical advice. i have been married for 30 years and found listening and respect the most important thing. If one knows his partner will listen and will respect his position, he will feel safe enough to say what he/she is truely thinking and feeling and then things can get worked out. Great video!
I agreed with you, starting a relationship is easy but making it last is a hard thing to do. Relationship is a work in process. Both of you need to work hard if you want to make your relationship last a lifetime.
Great article. I learn a lot from this. Please keep posting more.